Getting ready for the season.
April 6, 2010Boys, unlike men, like to fiddle around. They never have a certain direction, they prefer slightly retarded cover girls and will fear anything superior. They also fear the unknown and often thinking about a break-up before kissing the girl. For that reason alone, boys, unlike men, fail to live their youth to the max.
It takes years and plenty of lost things for them to realize that if they see something they want, they should simply go out and get it. I’ve heard some of the funniest things over the past couple of days. It’s not an insult, it’s not even a critique, but men can be considered fully mature somewhere over the age of 32. I don’t know why but everything else under that age line seems to fail at constructive thinking.
Those under 32 will never date the girl they like if the girl is a mate’s ex-girlfriend, even if the aforementioned mate is now happy and in love with a new girl, even if that ex-girlfriend shows interest. They think it would be weird. I think not, but maybe I’m just too far out of this planet to see things the way they do. Maybe I’m the twisted one.
Oh, another one I liked. They can’t date a girl that occasionally hangs out in their group. They can’t because they think that in case they break up, it’ll all be weird and they’ll avoid each other and other such nonsense. They haven’t even gotten to know the girl properly yet they think of the end. They haven’t even turned to page two on the fairytale yet they think of the unhappy ending. Who says it has to be unhappy? Who says that the princess turns into the possessive crazy ass witch by chapter three? Who say it has to go in that direction?
The fear of the unknown makes us reclusive and downright idiotic sometimes. And yes, it takes years of growing up to understand that one should take it one day at a time. If the shit hits the fan, well, the shit just hits the fan. It just happens. It’s really that easy and not complicated. We choose to complicate it. We choose to miss out on some of the best things because we fear the potentially harmful outcome. Our main feature shouldn’t be fear. Like somebody once said (a Disney movie…), courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to overcome it.
Summer is coming and there are plenty of stories to be written then. I’d like to write them with someone who’s not afraid to take what he wants, to fight for what he needs, to go over the social boundaries and to forget the entourage when it comes to his own personal life. The entourage should never determine who or what you want. The individual power should still be the primary force within. Not the groupies, for fuck’s sake. 
Anyway, let’s consider this a challenge. I love a good challenge.
Lol this funny cause you’re absolutely right about us not wanting to date a friends ex and about not wanting to date someone in our group but why in hell are girls so quick to think that its gonna last forever! I mean come on, be realistic now. and why do girls always expect for the guys to talk to them first? why, even if they do like you, do they choose not to talk to you but instead talk to everyone else and hug everyone else but not you.why dont girls ask boys out? why dont girls show their feeling more strongly? do they want us to do all the work? because Im the guy? i dont think so.and there is alotta girls who fit this description. and 32 is the mature age because thats when they realize that the fun is over and its time to actually grow up and start a family. and anyone who has a family before they turned 32, its cause they fucked up trust me.
Girls will always be inclined to search for the so-called soul mate from a very young age. Blame the Disney company, for all I care (lol). I’m being realistic upon saying this… we still look for the knight in shining armor, although we fail to admit it. Deep in our hearts, we hope for the long run every time we stumble into a guy. I wouldn’t know how to explain this, I’ve barely managed to comprehend certain bits of my own psychology, I wouldn’t even dare to analyze things on a larger scale.
We expect the guy to come up to us because it’s been done and overdone over the past thousand years. We’re just used to it and everytime we do take the first step we’re classified as perfect one night swings because we’re daring and apparently know what we want. Which is utter bullshit. So in order to avoid leaving that impression, we let you take the lead. A girl who takes the first step usually shows that she’s actually in control. We can’t let guys find out that we can actually do that. We’re simply afraid to crush the male spirit by taking the courting process into our own hands. Women don’t like to take dumps on social history. (again lol)
Girls do not ask boys out because, like I’ve said it before, we don’t want you guys to feel like you’re out of control. Face it, you feel intimidated if the girl takes you out. It’s hard to admit, but true. Very few men go past this moment and actually go on that date.
I’m 25 and I just moved to a different country. I don’t know anyone around. What am I supposed to do? Go up to the first guy I like and ask him out? I’m sorry but I think it would be social suicide to do that. You’re right about the 32 thing, I was the last good thing that happened to my mother – and that happened when she was 32.
Oh, and by the way… the girl will talk to everyone else except you, even if she likes you, because she’s afraid that she might end up giving you too much attention in that process. The girls is probably proud and afraid to show feelings. Feelings are often a weakness for a girl whose heart has taken certain yucky slopes.
Hope I made it clear, will gladly develop if failed previously.